4 Reasons Why Saying “No” to Your children Actually Benefits Them

Why is it often so difficult for parents to say “no” as an answer or response to their children? Frequently, parents do not want to disappoint their children and say “yes” or “maybe” too readily. Here are some suggestions as to why parents should be saying “no” more often and establishing boundaries:

1. Realize that children need to feel some discomfort. As they grow up and then enter the adult world, they will not be told “yes” as much as they would like. Learning from young will help them adjust more readily.

2. Children need to learn all about patience and waiting. There is an appropriate or proper time, but it will not always be when they want it to be. For example, if we allow them to stay up late on a school night playing video games, they will develop a feeling of being entitled to have what they want whenever they want it or do whatever they want to do whenever they want to.

3. Children feel more secure when they have boundaries. Instead of constantly negotiating with your children or giving continual reasons as to why you are saying “no”, take a stand and say “no” but, importantly, be prepared to be firm in your decision. Understand that children will push the boundaries as much as they can, and it is up to the parents to stand and keep on standing. If your children continue to argue or negotiate or raise their voice, just tell them that you will not discuss the matter any further and turn and walk away. The discussion has ended. Yelling at your children will not accomplish what you desire.

4. Children should understand that their parents are in charge and are not their friends. Too often, parents want to be their children’s friends and allow their children to have their way. A parent cannot simultaneously be a friend and parent. Children need direction and that comes from their parents.

You should also be mindful of saying “no” too often. There are many alternate ways to say “no” and the article below provides some interesting things to say and do instead.

For more information, please visit:

https://www.melbournechildpsychology.com.au/blog/why-parents-should-feel-good-about-saying-no-to-their-children/

https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/no-means-no-how-to-teach-your-child-that-you-mean-business/

https://www.parents.com/toddlers-preschoolers/discipline/tips/discipline-without-saying-no/

5 Important Benefits that Children Derive from Coloring Books

Children love to draw and color! They use crayons and markers to make their own designs and color combinations.  For them, any and every color can be useful.  It is so wonderful to watch them!   

Have you ever considered that there are at least 5 benefits to their coloring?  Experts agree that those benefits include:

• It helps their motor skills and coordination – As children hold a crayon or marker and color with it, they are using their brains, hands, and fingers to develop their motor skills and coordination.

• It helps them to focus – When a child is coloring, the child is very intentional and focused.  Concentrating on a specific thing is beneficial for children to learn.

• It relieves stress – Yes, children do suffer from anxiety and stress, especially these days.  Be sensitive to your children’s moods and feelings.  Have plenty of coloring books available.

• It encourages creativity and self-expression – As a child selects a specific color, the child is using his/her own creativity and means of self-expression.  It is important that we never criticize our children for their color choices.  If your child colors a tree purple, simply ask why?  I’m sure your child will tell you a very good reason!

• It develops patience in them – As they color a picture, they will take their time and then see the end result, which they will be very proud of and have a sense of accomplishment in.  Keep those pictures and put them in places where they can be displayed for a while.  I still have in my possession today pictures that my sons, who are now adults, colored.

If you are considering purchasing coloring books, my children’s books have been transformed into coloring books too.  Your children will learn as they use their artistic abilities to color.  This is an additional important benefit for them.  Please visit our website to purchase them.

To learn more, please visit:

https://www.colorpsychology.org/benefits-of-coloring-pages-for-kids/

https://www.momjunction.com/articles/amazing-advantages-coloring-pages-childs-development_0086656/

4 Reasons Why Saying “No” to Your children Actually Benefits Them

             Why is it often so difficult for parents to say “no” as an answer or response to their children?  Frequently, parents do not want to disappoint their children and say “yes” too readily.  Here are some suggestions as to why parents should be saying “no” more often and establishing boundaries:

1. Realize that children need to feel some discomfort.  As they grow up and then enter the adult world, they will not be told “yes” as much as they would like.  Learning from young will help them adjust more readily.

2. Children need to learn all about patience and waiting.  There is an appropriate or proper time, but it will not always be when they want it to be.  For example, if we allow them to stay up late on a school night playing video games, they will develop a feeling of being entitled to have what they want whenever they want it or do whatever they want to do whenever they want to.

3. Children feel more secure when they have boundaries.   Instead of constantly negotiating with your children or giving continual reasons as to why you are saying “no”, take a stand and say “no” but, importantly, be prepared to be firm in your decision.  Understand that children will push the boundaries as much as they can, and it is up to the parents to stand and keep on standing.  If your children continue to argue or negotiate or raise their voice, just tell them that you will not discuss the matter any further and turn and walk away.  The discussion has ended. Yelling at your children will not accomplish what you desire.

4. Children should understand that their parents are in charge and are not their friends.  Too often, parents want to be their children’s friends and allow their children to have their way.  A parent cannot simultaneously be a friend and parent.  Children need direction and that comes from their parents.

For more information, please visit:

https://www.melbournechildpsychology.com.au/blog/why-parents-should-feel-good-about-saying-no-to-their-children/

https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/no-means-no-how-to-teach-your-child-that-you-mean-business/