God has not given us a spirit of fear but of power, and love and a sound mind.

2 Timothy 1:7

I often hear a parent refer to a child as “shy”. What does that mean? According to psychologists, shyness relates to being uncomfortable in different settings, including social settings. It is different than being an introvert, because introverts like being by themselves and do not want much social interaction. A shy child is usually unwilling to take risks in any situation. Studies show that “shy” children can learn skills to help them overcome the fears that they have and grow up to be well-adapted, confident people.

I would first like to say that as Christian parents, it’s important how we “label” or “brand” our children. Remember that your child is listening to what you call him or her. Once a parent labels a child as “shy”, that child will grow up and live up to that label. Stop calling or labeling your child something that is contrary to the Word of God.

If you have a child who displays some timidity or bashfulness, start first with searching the Bible for stories that will encourage your child and show him/her how ordinary people overcame their fears by having faith and focusing on God. Find scripture verses addressing fear and help your child to memorize them. This should be a part of your daily routine. Play games with these verses and make it fun. Also, support your child in meeting new people and being in new situations. What we say about and to our children should always line up with the Word of God.