5 Tips for Helping Your Children to Set Goals for 2022

At the beginning of a new year, many people like to make New Year’s resolutions.  I prefer to set goals instead.  And, when you are setting goals, please include some for your children.  Here are 5 tips for helping your children to set goals in the new year of 2022:

1. Talk with them about setting attainable goals, not pie in the sky ones, as well as measurable goals.  For example, to encourage your children to read more, perhaps an attainable and measurable goal is to read one book each week.  You can write on a calendar each week the title of the book read.  Your child can then easily see his accomplishments.  For younger children, a goal can be to read to them a book before going to sleep every weeknight or on a night during the weekend.

2. Limit the goals to just a few and have your children write them down.  Having a vast variety of goals is just not achievable and your children will feel more accomplished if there are just a few goals that they can concentrate on by taking small steps.  Also, by writing them down, your children will be more likely to focus on them on a regular basis. Keep the goals in places that your children can easily see them so they are reminded of what they are aiming toward.

3. Motivate your children to set goals.  Goal setting is not easy and many children would rather not even talk about it.  Experts say that goal setting is an important skill for children to learn at an early age.  

4. Include goals that have personal as well as family benefits.  Some goals may include activities for the family to build bonds as well as activities for the child only.

5. Ensure that each goal is one that you as a parent can support and encourage.  As your child accomplishes each small step toward a goal, be there to applaud his efforts.

To learn more, please visit:

https://www.parents.com/parenting/better-parenting/style/how-to-teach-kids-perseverance-goal-setting/

https://www.totsnteens.net/blog/preparing-your-child-for-the-new-year/

https://www.healthychildren.org/English/family-life/family-dynamics/Pages/Healthy-New-Years-Resolutions-for-Kids.aspx

Happy New Year!

We at As the Stars of the Sky Foundation would like to thank you for all your support!  Happy New Year 2022!  I love this prayer from Numbers 6:24-26, NKJV version, and pray this over you for the new year:

“The LORD bless you and keep you; The LORD make His face shine upon you, And be gracious to you; The LORD lift up His countenance upon you, And give you peace.”

God Gave Us The Greatest Gift Of All - His Son Jesus!

        God is the greatest gift-giver of all time!  He gave His Son Jesus as the most precious gift to us all. This Christmas, talk with your children about gift-giving and gift-receiving.

        Luke 6:38 states that in giving, we will receive.  The NIV version provides:

“Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.”

        That verse is counter to our way of thinking as we usually believe that we should be on the receiving end of many beautiful and wonderful gifts.  We also cannot ignore the last part of the verse – if we are stingy in giving, then that is what we will receive back.  How are you and your children following through with God’s command to give this season?  Is the focus on receiving gifts or on what God did for us? 

        From my family to yours – MERRY CHRISTMAS! 

3 Important Benefits For Your Children From Learning To Play A Musical Instrument

         If your children do not yet play a musical instrument, please consider having them learn to do so.  There are so many benefits to a child, including the 3 mentioned below:

1. It helps to develop discipline.  Learning to play an instrument takes time and dedication.  Time must be set aside on an almost daily basis to practice.  Sometimes, practice needs to take place even though your child would much rather to be doing something else.

2. It helps build time management skills.  There are only a set number of hours each day that a child has and much of this time is taken up by school, homework, chores and play.  In order to practice regularly, you and your child will have to plan out a schedule and then stick to it as much as possible.  Your children will learn how to prioritize their time and eliminate tasks that really do not matter.

3. It helps children to regulate their emotions.  In a study published in the Journal of the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry on the effects of learning a musical instrument on child brain development, researchers saw improvements “in regions of the brain that regulate behavior, emotions, working memory, attention and future planning.”  Dr. Jim Hudziak, professor of psychiatry, medicine, pediatrics, and communication sciences and disorders at University of Vermont’s Larner College of Medicine, said that “there are things we can do to help in the development of those frontal and prefrontal regions of the brain, which are involved with attention and emotional regulation. Musical practice is one such workout.”

         Monday December 13 is recognized as National Violin Day, promoting the importance of violins in our society. One of my nieces has played the violin since she was a young child and she was able to excel through discipline, including daily practice sessions.  She is now attending a prestigious music college as a result.

         Parents should speak with their children about what type of musical instrument they may be interested in.  It may be that your child starts learning one instrument, but later, changes to another one.  What is important to keep in mind is the impact learning an instrument has on the child’s brain development, not the type of instrument itself that is played.

         To learn more, please visit:

https://www.kidsvt.com/vermont/how-does-learning-to-play-an-instrument-affect-a-childs-brain/Content?oid=2757234

https://time.com/3634995/study-kids-engaged-music-class-for-benefits-northwestern/

Celebrate Human Rights Day With Your Children on December 10

On December 10, 1948, the United Nations General Assembly adopted the Universal Declaration of Human Rights (UDHR) which establishes the unalienable rights of all human beings. It has been translated into over 500 languages and it holds the Guiness World Record of being the most translated document in the world. Each year, December 10 is celebrated as Human Rights Day and the theme for 2021 comes directly from Article 1 of the UDHR – “All human beings are born free and equal in dignity and rights.”

The great champion of human rights, former president of South Africa and winner of the Nobel Peace Prize Nelson Mandela once said: “No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.”

Teaching our children about human rights will broaden their understanding and appreciation of other persons and cultures and the rights that we all share. Various websites have information and resources for you to learn more and celebrate the day with your children and I have noted some below. Included in the resources are a simplified pdf version of the UDHR and an illustrated booklet. Each person is entitled to basic human rights and knowledge of those rights is key.

To learn more, please visit:

https://www.un.org/en/observances/human-rights-day

https://www.un.org/en/observances/human-rights-day/resources

https://www.standup4humanrights.org/en/take-action.html

https://www.un.org/en/observances/human-rights-day/know-your-rights

Involve Your Children in Caregiving During National Family Caregivers Month

November is National Family Caregivers month. President Joe Biden signed a Proclamation on October 29, 2021, declaring November 2021 as such. President Biden wrote in the Proclamation as follows: “I encourage all Americans to reach out to those who provide care for their family members, friends, and neighbors in need, to honor and to thank them.”

What is a caregiver? It is a person who provides so much to the person being cared for, from companionship, love, attention, and friendship to providing healthcare for the person. Even a smile is a way of showing that you care.

I was a caregiver for my late husband for many years – he suffered from Parkinson’s Disease. Our two sons assisted me in caring for their father. It was a loving tribute to their father that they will always remember and cherish. And, of course, their father much appreciated their acts of love.

Is there a grandparent or other relative with whom your children can spend time? Is there a neighbor who needs some assistance, perhaps with some simple chores? Perhaps there is someone whom you know who is a caregiver. Think about honoring and thanking that person too. We should harken to the words of the Apostle Paul in Acts 20:35, “In everything I did, I showed you that by this kind of hard work we must help the weak, remembering the words the Lord Jesus himself said: ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’” (NIV)

Learn the History of Thanksgiving Day!

            What do your children know about Thanksgiving Day?  My faith-based children’s book tells the history of how Thanksgiving Day came to be and all that we should be grateful for.  It is filled with colorful illustrations and lots of humor because children love to laugh.  It is a fun way for children to learn about and truly appreciate this holiday.   

            You can purchase a copy at any online book seller and at our website at asthestarsofthesky.org.  If you order from our nonprofit foundation’s website, we will add a FREE set of coloring pages too.  These coloring pages reinforce what the children read.  All proceeds from book sales go to the foundation to help promote literacy.  Please consider purchasing a copy today.

Dos and Don’ts About Allowances For Your Child

  According to a survey of 1,000 parents by The American Institute of Certified Public Accountants, approximately two-thirds give allowances to their children. The average allowance is $30 per week! If you’re like me, you may have thought that amount was too much. This blog post will provide some helpful advice as to the dos and don’ts about allowances. At the end of this blog are some links to websites that will provide additional assistance. The bottom line is that it is up to each family to decide when to start giving an allowance, how much to give each child, and what the child will be required to do to earn it.

  How much should the allowance be? Some experts recommend that the weekly allowance should be an amount equal to the child’s age. If your child is 9 years old, for example, the weekly allowance can be $9. Or you can establish it to be one-half of the child’s age. Using the same example, the allowance would be $4.50 per week.

  Should the allowance be tied to chores? According to experts, here are some pros and cons to consider:

  Pros: children learn the difference between work and play; it is an incentive to actually get the chores done; and

  Cons: children learn that household duties always deserve a reward rather than they should do some duties because they are part of a family; if they do not need money, then they will not do the chores; because of your small family budget, you may not be able to pay much of an allowance or any at all.

What are some age-appropriate chores? Again, according to some experts, you can consider these ages with related chores:

Ages 4-5: cleaning their bedroom; helping put laundry away; putting away their toys; making their bed

Ages 6-7: setting and clearing the dining table; taking out the trash; feeding the pets

Ages 10-11: cleaning the kitchen, doing laundry, walking the dog, putting groceries away

Remember that you are teaching your children to be responsible. As a parent, you should be consistent and have your children follow through with doing the chores for which they will be paid an allowance. They last thing that you should do is pay the allowance when all the chores have not been done according to your agreement.

For more information, please visit:

https://www.parents.com/kids/responsibility/money-management/how-to-give-kids-allowance-the-right-way/

https://www.news4jax.com/features/2021/07/14/kids-and-allowance-when-how-much-should-you-tie-them-to-chores/

https://www.marketwatch.com/story/5-mistakes-parents-make-when-giving-kids-an-allowance-2016-05-06

The Benefits of Children Playing Teams Sports

      I have written before about how important it is for children to be involved in sport activities.  Today’s blog post is taking it a step further and is on the benefits of playing team sports. It is generally understood about how physical exercise is good for children, but team sports involves much more than that.

Phil Jackson, the famous basketball coach who coached the Los Angeles Lakers to five league titles, said this about teamwork: “The strength of the team is each individual member.  The strength of each member is the team.”  Here are some of the benefits of children participating in team sports:

1. It helps them develop better communication skills.  Each team member must communicate with the others to develop better skills and play better together. Team members talk with each other before a practice or game and after.  They encourage and joke with each other as well as discuss their disappointments.  They learn to respect each other.

2. It helps build their self-esteem.  What could make a child feel better than his/her fellow team members speaking words of encouragement and hearing their shouts of joy and cheers?

3. It helps them to build leadership skills.  Each team has a few leaders so your children can aspire to be one.

4. It serves as an external family and community.  Children develop friendships and loyalties with each other and that serves them well for many years, often a lifetime.

5. It can help older children to be mentors of younger ones. 

        Find out what types of sports our children would like to play and consider helping them to join a team.  It is important to make sure that you and your children will have time to participate in all that team sports entails.

To learn more, please visit:

https://www.edutopia.org/discussion/social-and-academic-benefits-team-sports

https://abcquality.org/posts/2020/the-many-benefits-of-children-playing-a-team-sport/

Two Important Things Parents Can Do To Stop Nagging

             Nagging hurts the parent-child bond.  There is no doubt about that.  Last week, my blog post was 6 Reasons Why Parents Should Stop Nagging and this week it is about how to stop nagging.  Once we parents get into the habit of nagging, it’s not easy to stop, so it is up to us to learn how to stop.  I hope that you will implement these two helpful tips:

1. Find out why you nag.

One of the main reasons that we nag is out of fear for our children.  Mandie Shean, psychologist and teacher, suggests that we need to allow our children to fail: “The problem is, in our efforts to protect children, we take valuable opportunities for learning away from them. Failure provides benefits that cannot be gained any other way. Failure is a gift disguised as a bad experience. Failure is not the absence of success, but the experience of failure on the way to success.”

Another factor is how we ourselves were raised.  Did you have a parent who nagged you to do things?  If so, you are more likely to be a nagger too.

Ask yourself what triggers you to nag.  Can you accomplish your goals without nagging?  The answer is, of course, a resounding yes!

2. Find another way to handle the situation rather than nagging.

Finding an alternative way to handle a problem or challenge requires controlling our emotions and planning ahead of time.  Have your children participate in planning.  Prepare visual aids that will give them direction and serve as constant reminders.

For example: the goal is to have your son do his homework every day before dinner.   Talk with him about it.  Prepare a chart similar to the one that is suggested in the website article from the messymotherhood.com below with all the chores and other tasks he is required to do on a daily or weekly basis.  Talk with him about when he can complete all that he has to do and how much time should be allocated for each.  Prepare a chart that will be an important visual aid for him to remember.  Once he completes a chore, he will be able to check it off.  

Talk with him about what happens if he does not follow through as planned.  Let him know the consequences in advance.

Instead of nagging him over and over about doing a specific task or chore, point to the chart and remind him.  Discuss what must be done if he does not comply.  Be sure to follow through on the consequences.  He will not adhere to the plan unless he knows that there are definite consequences.  Be sure as well to give kudos for following through.  Emphasizing the positive is an excellent motivating factor.  Finally, be patient as you and your children transition to a new way of doing things.  Help them to check their charts regularly and then develop the habit on their own.

https://wehavekids.com/parenting/Why-Do-We-Nag-Our-Children-and-How-Do-We-Stop

https://messymotherhood.com/one-simple-thing-stop-nagging-for-good/

https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/parenting/behavior/5-ways-to-stop-nagging-your-kids

https://afineparent.com/positive-parenting-faq/how-to-stop-nagging.html

6 Reasons Why Parents Should Stop Nagging

Nagging your children.  Nit-picking at them.  These all amount to the same thing – fault-finding and criticism.  Here are 6 reasons why parents should stop nagging:

1. Proverbs 18:21, The Passion Translation, reminds us of the importance of our words: “Your words are so powerful that they will kill or give life”. The Word of God admonishes us to speak words of life, especially over and to our children.

2. It makes children feel incompetent. I love this quote from American author and stress expert Lori Lite: “Look for teaching moments instead of criticizing moments.”

3. It weakens the bond between parent and child because the child begins to tune out.

   According to Melanie Greenberg, psychologist and parenting expert, “When parents go on and on, kids tune them out. Researchers have shown that the human brain can keep only four 'chunks' of information or unique ideas in short-term (active) memory at once. This amounts to about 30 seconds or one or two sentences of speaking.”

4. It emphasizes the negative.

5. It can lead to arguments rather than resolutions.

6. It is not a long-term solution.

Next week’s blog post will have suggestions as to how parents can stop or at least, limit nagging.

This blog post was based generally on the online article:

https://wehavekids.com/parenting/Why-Do-We-Nag-Our-Children-and-How-Do-We-Stop

Ensuring Your Children's Good Oral Health

            As the holiday season approaches and our eating of sweets increases, it is important for parents to ensure that their children have good oral health.  What are you doing to encourage your children to keep good care of their teeth? 

            I wrote a blog a few years ago titled Make Certain That Your Children Receive Proper Oral Health Care from an Early Age , which cited to an online article stating that up to 40% of children may have tooth decay before they enter kindergarten.  That is a surprising statistic!

            In a recent article on the website www.healthychildren.org, more information is provided to help parents teach their children how to correctly brush their teeth and to make it a routine. Some recommendations are:

1. Start early - It is important to start a routine of brushing teeth, even if your children are young and don’t have any.  Go through the motions.  Have them join you when you are brushing your teeth.

2. Brush often – It is best to brush after every meal so if you start having your children brush frequently, they will develop that habit at an early age.

3. Sing songs – Make it fun for your children by singing songs and keep them engaged for 2 minutes as they brush their teeth.

4. Check it out – Be sure to monitor how they are brushing their teeth and check to make sure.

5. Appeal to taste – Have your children select their own toothbrushes and toothpaste, as long as the toothpaste has fluoride.

6. Hands off – When your children are ready to use their own brushes by themselves, let them but again be sure to check to ensure that they are brushing their teeth properly.

7. Go where no child has gone before – Be sure that they are getting the teeth that are located in the hard to see and reach areas of their mouths.

That website has many other excellent articles so please take the time to visit it and read the recommendations.  It will be time well spent.

For more information, please visit: https://www.healthychildren.org/English/healthy-living/oral-health/Pages/let-the-brushing-games-begin.aspx

Celebrate Hispanic Heritage Month

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            What do you know about National Hispanic Heritage Month?  There is so much that you can learn and be sure to also include your children in this learning process.

September 15 to October 15 is the month set aside specifically to celebrate the history, cultures and contributions of Hispanic people in the United States.  It started out as a week-long celebration under President Lyndon Johnson in 1968 and expanded in 1988 to one full month when the celebration became a law under President Ronald Reagan.   The day of September 15 was selected as the start of the celebration as many countries in Central America celebrate it as the anniversary of their independence.  Other South American countries celebrate anniversaries of their independence within that month long period.

            At the website https://www.hispanicheritagemonth.gov/ much information is provided, including exhibits, collections, and audio and video links.  There is also a web page with information for teachers with links to lesson plans, learning labs, teachings from the National Park Service about historical places, and much more information for children beginning at PreK.

            Other websites also have fun activities specifically for children geared at teaching about Hispanic culture and history.  Please see the links below.  These activities range from recipes, to music, dance, books, coloring pages, and kid-friendly art projects.

For more information, please visit:

https://www.hispanicheritagemonth.gov/

https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2021/09/09/key-facts-about-u-s-latinos-for-national-hispanic-heritage-month/

https://www.connecticutchildrens.org/diversity-equity-and-inclusion/8-ways-to-celebrate-national-hispanic-heritage-month-with-kids/

https://www.modernmami.com/hispanic-heritage-month-activities-for-kids/

Nature is Calling Families!

I love this short poem from Nicolette Sowder who promotes nature-connected parenting.  Nature is truly calling families to get outdoors and enjoy and appreciate her beauty and interact with all that there is. 

Walking together in nature as a family is a wonderful, bonding activity.  Is there a park in your community or a field?  Perhaps you may have to drive a distance.  No matter how small the green area is, it will serve the purpose.

When in nature, take your time.  Look at all there is from the sky down to the earth and when available, even below the earth.  Talk to your children about what you see and what they see.  Soak the beauty in.  And breathe!

Children will be amazed as they walk, as they always walk in wonder and awe, as this poem says.  Allow your children to revel in the awe that nature brings.  

Again, there should be no rush.  You are spending very important quality time with your family and building precious memories that your children will always remember.

At Mrs. Sowder’s website, https://wilderchild.com/, she provides a lot of recommendations for parents on ways to incorporate nature into your family’s schedule and to encourage children to spend more time outside.   She also includes her own blog with helpful articles such as 6 Ways to Get Your Kids Outside (When They Don’t Want To Go) and 5 Things I Don’t Say To My Daughter When We’re Out in Nature.  I think you will truly enjoy her website.

Startling Facts About the Rise of Obesity Among Children

            Unfortunately, the rate of obesity among our children continues to rise, especially during the pandemic.  The Centers for Disease Control (CDC) has continued to warn Americans that “childhood obesity is a serious problem in the United States, putting children and adolescents at risk for poor health. Obesity prevalence among children and adolescents is still too high.”  Now, a recent article in The Washington Post titled Obesity Among Children Ages 5-11 Rises During the Pandemic cites to a new study to confirm the growing rate of overweight children.

The article refers to a study in the Journal of the American Medical Association (JAMA) of 200,000 children ages 5-17 in southern California during the covid 19 pandemic.  It found that children ages 5-11 gained an average of 5 pounds.  According to the study, “before the pandemic, about 36 percent of 5- to 11-year-olds were considered overweight or obese, and that increased to 45.7 percent.”

               Interviewed for the article was Barry Popkin, an obesity researcher at the School of Public Health at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill.  He said that the major causes for this rise were the following: “Kids in school had to be in front of computers, and there were lockdowns that kept people inside. But the bigger increase was the increased purchase of ready-to-eat junk food, foods high in calories, saturated fat and added sugars. The sale of these went up more than any other category.”

                What can parents do?  Deborah Young, one of the study’s authors, suggested that we should have plans “that encourage kids to be active, that keep the parks open and that encourage the intake of appropriate and healthful foods.”  The same applies to times that do not involve a pandemic.  The CDC has a website page with links filled with suggestions and tips for parents, including recommended physical activity, ChooseMyPlate website that has information about developing healthy eating habits, and many ways to establish healthy practices.  All the links are provided below.

To learn more, please visit:

https://www.cdc.gov/obesity/data/childhood.html

https://www.cdc.gov/obesity/strategies/index.html

https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/2021/08/31/pandemic-childhood-obesity/?fbclid=IwAR2aLanT2I0G326-lLfE4Ub-96QI4SMShtDB_RRnOEfQRMuAL6NADr7d7qw

Discuss With Your Children About the United Nations 2021 International Day of Peace & Its Theme

       The International Day of Peace is celebrated annually on September 21.  It was established in 1981 by a unanimous resolution of the United Nations General Assembly.  According to its website, the International Day of Peace is a “shared date for all humanity to commit to Peace above all differences and to contribute to building a Culture of Peace.”  In 2001, the General Assembly voted to have this day designated as 24-hours of nonviolence and ceasefire throughout the world.  It is important for children to learn about peace initiatives, as I wrote in a previous blog titled Teaching Our Children About Peace.

The theme this year is “Recovering Better for a Sustainable and Equitable World”.   The website sets forth why this theme was selected:

The pandemic has been accompanied by a surge in stigma, discrimination, and hatred, which only cost more lives instead of saving them: the virus attacks all without caring about where we are from or what we believe in. Confronting this common enemy of humankind, we must be reminded that we are not each other’s enemy. To be able to recover from the devastation of the pandemic, we must make peace with one another.

And we must make peace with nature. Despite the travel restrictions and economic shutdowns, climate change is not on pause. What we need is a green and sustainable global economy that produces jobs, reduces emissions, and builds resilience to climate impacts.

We invite you to join the efforts of the United Nations family as we focus on recovering better for a more equitable and peaceful world. Celebrate peace by standing up against acts of hate online and offline, and by spreading compassion, kindness, and hope in the face of the pandemic, and as we recover.

There are many suggested activities for children and youth, and I have provided links below.  Please take this opportunity to discuss with your children about the importance of peace initiatives and have them learn what is being done locally and internationally to promote peace.

For more information, please visit:

https://internationaldayofpeace.org/

https://www.un.org/en/observances/international-day-peace

https://internationaldayofpeace.org/get-involved/

4 Reasons Why Saying “No” to Your children Actually Benefits Them

             Why is it often so difficult for parents to say “no” as an answer or response to their children?  Frequently, parents do not want to disappoint their children and say “yes” too readily.  Here are some suggestions as to why parents should be saying “no” more often and establishing boundaries:

1. Realize that children need to feel some discomfort.  As they grow up and then enter the adult world, they will not be told “yes” as much as they would like.  Learning from young will help them adjust more readily.

2. Children need to learn all about patience and waiting.  There is an appropriate or proper time, but it will not always be when they want it to be.  For example, if we allow them to stay up late on a school night playing video games, they will develop a feeling of being entitled to have what they want whenever they want it or do whatever they want to do whenever they want to.

3. Children feel more secure when they have boundaries.   Instead of constantly negotiating with your children or giving continual reasons as to why you are saying “no”, take a stand and say “no” but, importantly, be prepared to be firm in your decision.  Understand that children will push the boundaries as much as they can, and it is up to the parents to stand and keep on standing.  If your children continue to argue or negotiate or raise their voice, just tell them that you will not discuss the matter any further and turn and walk away.  The discussion has ended. Yelling at your children will not accomplish what you desire.

4. Children should understand that their parents are in charge and are not their friends.  Too often, parents want to be their children’s friends and allow their children to have their way.  A parent cannot simultaneously be a friend and parent.  Children need direction and that comes from their parents.

For more information, please visit:

https://www.melbournechildpsychology.com.au/blog/why-parents-should-feel-good-about-saying-no-to-their-children/

https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/no-means-no-how-to-teach-your-child-that-you-mean-business/

Teach Your Children About Labor Day

On September 6, we celebrate the national holiday known as Labor Day. In addition to the usual family-fun time, please set aside some time to help your children understand why it was established and its significance through many different activities that are available for their age group.

I wrote a previous blog post that is very informative and which you will enjoy reading - How Did Labor Day Start? It provides some historical background of the holiday, emphasizing the fact that it commemorates the Labor Movement of the 19th century that sought to end the poor and unfair treatment of American workers.

There are a variety of activities online for children to learn more about this important day, from arts, crafts and worksheets to books and videos. I post some links below to assist parents. Please be sure to select age-appropriate activities.

Please visit the following links for learning activities for children:

https://kidskonnect.com/holidays-seasons/labor-day/

https://www.sheknows.com/parenting/articles/970075/teaching-your-kids-about-the-meaning-of-labor-day/

Video link to PBS Learning Media – Labor Day – PBS Kids:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KY_L8--kNB0

Read Aloud Books:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I0ZBjHhmNjo

Reading Helps To Reduce Stress In Children

            Reading is an important way to reduce stress in children, whether they read books themselves or are read to by someone else.  A study conducted by MindLab International at the University of Sussex in England found that reading just 6 minutes can reduce stress up to 68% and works faster than other relaxation techniques such as listening to music or walking.  Researchers have found that when you read, your mind is distracted and the tension in your muscles and the heart eases and stress levels reduce.

            What can cause stress in children? A huge culprit is uncertainty.  Whether in their living environment at home or at school, and with the Covid 19 pandemic still fresh in our memories, children can feel a lack of safety and security.  They may listen to the news when they are with a parent, and there is a lot of negative news that focuses on the instability in the world today.  Another cause for stress is change.  Perhaps there has been a recent illness or death in the family.   Busy schedules, peer pressure, and a lack of sleep are all added stressors.

            When children read or are read to, their minds are distracted from their situations, just like adults. They focus on the details of the story, not on what is happening in their lives.  It stirs their imagination and creativity.  A good book can be a source of joy and laughter too.  Also, when they read with people whom they love and trust, they feel safe as they are in a secure environment.

            Set aside time each day to read with your children.  Create a cozy place for them to read and have plenty of books for them to read on their own as well.  This will get them away from playing video games all day long and reduce their stress levels through more positive ways.

For more information, please visit:

https://www.reading-rewards.com/blog/how-reading-can-help-kids-relieve-stress/#:~:text=Recent%20studies%20by%20Mindlab%20International,re%20distracted%20from%20their%20worries

https://www.takingcharge.csh.umn.edu/reading-stress-relief

https://medium.com/@jessicamansourati/want-to-reduce-stress-levels-by-68-in-6-minutes-read-a-book-17ade265c65d

The Importance of Touch for Children During Parent-Child Interaction

            When was the last time you hugged your child?  When did you last lovingly stroke your child’s hair or arm?  Experts continue to agree that nurturing touch during the parent-child interaction is very important for a child’s social, emotional, and intellectual development.

            According to researchers Melody Whiddon and Marilyn Montgomery, studies have established that humans are “hardwired to crave touch and actually require it for normal physical, social, and emotional development to occur.  Many systems in the brain are activated by touch, without which optimal physiological development is not possible. Moreover, positive, nurturing touch triggers the release of the ‘bonding hormone,’ Oxytocin, which increases feelings of closeness and facilitates parent-child attachment and social-emotional adjustment.”

            In her online article titled The Importance of Touch - From Hugs to High-Fives, Kids of All Ages Need to Physically Feel Our Love, Susan Spicer writes that “touch=health”.  Science has established that positive touch actually lowers depression.  Moreover, skin-to-skin contact enhances a child’s feeling of safety and trust.  Touch is an important way to communicate to children your love, care, and concern.

            Parents are encouraged to positively touch and nurture their children.  Young children typically seek touch, but older ones may shy away.  It is recommended that parents follow their children’s cues – if a child comes seeking a hug, hug him; if the child walks away, consider some other form of showing affection, such as playful wrestling or tickling.  Don’t give up!  Seek to give your children that loving touch as much as possible.

To read the article by Melody Whiddon and Marilyn Montgomery and for more information, please visit:

https://www.counseling.org/resources/library/vistas/2011-v-online/Article_88.pdf

https://www.todaysparent.com/family/the-importance-of-touch/

http://www.urbanchildinstitute.org/articles/research-to-policy/research/enhancing-development-through-the-sense-of-touch