Sometimes our children are harder on themselves than others are with them. It is important to listen to what your children say about themselves and be able to help them stop their self-criticism as soon as possible. Encourage them to build self-esteem.
In her online article on Focus on the Family’s website, author Shana Schutte writes that there are basic ABCs to building self-esteem in children. Start with the letter “A” which represents “acceptance”. Children must feel accepted unconditionally by their parents! If they don’t, they will withdraw and become self-critical.
The letter “B” represents “belonging”. Children must feel as if they belong in their family and are a critical, appreciated part of their family. When peer pressure takes place, a child who feels a deep sense of belonging to her family, will find it easier to resist doing an act that she knows is not right.
The letter “C” represents “competence”. Your children also need to feel as if they are competent and able to do what they would like to do. Be there for them and encourage them, but do not be an overprotective parent.
I also believe it is very important that children learn Bible verses that describe how much God loves them and how God sees them. Search for Bible verses that your children can memorize and then use these verses to refute any negative feelings your children may have about themselves.
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